Bunny Cox

Spiritual Director

Retreat Leader 

Teacher of Prayer

Spiritual Direction

What is the Ministry of Spiritual Direction?


Spiritual Direction refers to an on-going, one-to-one relationship with a director who assists another grow in intimacy with God and in discerning God’s presence, activity and invitations in his or her life. Sometimes called a spiritual companion or spiritual guide, a spiritual director honors a fellow seeker with a time and place to explore their experience of God and offers companionship and support for that process. 


What is Talked About In Spiritual Direction?     

The focus of direction is the directee's relationship with God as it is reflected and challenged by all aspects of that person's life. The primary responsibilities of the director are prayer for the directee and openess to the Holy Spirit who is in fact the real director.

Spiritual Direction is Not Counseling? 

It is important to make the distinction that spiritual direction is not counseling or therapy. In general, therapy and counseling deal primarily with problem areas of one's life and attempt to bring healthy resolution to issues. Spiritual direction is concerned with finding and responding to God in the midst of pain or disorder as well as in the rest of life. Problem/issue solving is not the primary focus of direction.

Who Comes for Spiritual Direction?


Anyone who seeks a deeper relationship with God.  A person coming for direction is trying to be serious about some form of intentional prayer and reflection on the God-currents of one's every day life and prayer. Although all aspects of a person’s life are part of the spiritual journey, some seek direction with nothing more specific than a desire to grow, to move beyond the spiritual place where they are to a deeper and richer place. Others have sought spiritual direction when facing tough decisions, seeking Christian growth and balance in delicate personal relationships, desiring to begin or deepen a life of prayer, or when facing a serious illness or during a life transition. 




It is important to remember that the person seeking direction ultimately assumes the responsibility for his or her life in God.  You are strongly encouraged to meet with a potential director before prayerful deciding if that relationship is right for you.  If you have additional questions or desire further information about spiritual direction contact Bunny Cox.  She can be reached at info@bunnycox.com or (205) 310-5781. Bunny Cox authored the above information, which appeared in Alabama Episcopalian, November-December 2009/Vol. 94, No. 7.  

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Gifts and qualities to look for when considering a spiritual director:

Spiritual direction is a ministry of presence, hospitality, holy listening to another’s sacred story, and confidentiality. It is important for there to be a mutual sense of the rightness of the relationship and a concern for open, honest, clear communication. The following are some thoughts for consideration when seeking a potential spiritual director and in deciding, with God’s guidance, if a relationship of trust and wisdom can be formed:

  • Are they a person of prayer and attentive to their own spiritual lives?
  • Do they have the capacity to love?  Love is exhibited in numerous ways:  The ability to listen with attention and interest, without judgment; respect for another recognizing individual autonomy; and the ability to provide an environment where another feels safe.  Love is exhibited in care and hospitality, but also in the ability to confront others when confrontation is needed.
  • Are they affirming persons who can see the image of God in every human being?
  •  Are they willing to journey with another through joy as well as sorrow?
  • Are they, honest and authentic, and able to be themselves?  Do they recognize their own role as a fellow traveler subject to the same struggles, doubts, and fears? Are they able to share intimately, risk vulnerability, trusting in the Spirit.
  • Do they believe God is present and active in the lives of all people, a living and present reality? Do they see God in all things, rather than seeing the world as split between the physical and the spiritual? Do they know themselves to be loved by God?
  • Spiritual gifts revealed in the Bible which may be present include pastor/shepherding, discernment, help, compassion, mercy, hospitality, faith, intercession, wisdom, and knowledge.    


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